but look, there's a tab A and a slot B right here!

[ironymaiden]

i have tried and failed at the "you guys would like each other" thing.

right now i'm pretty sure that i mishandled said introduction by being perfectly honest about my intentions. i believe that i could have done the same thing (have a couple single friends come over for dinner and board games) and then followed up with "...and s/he's single" with better results. (female friend was nervous and not-herself. and then felt uncomfortable with having to say "not interested" to me afterwards. tonight i will get to have mirror conversation with male friend and be doubly sad.)

however, i am not a very good liar and it would have been kind of transparent anyway and i don't like manipulating people i care about. and the lying version puts every person i introduce to another friend into the eligible bucket, and that's weird too. i want friend stream-crossing to remain drama-free. yet statistically, being introduced by a mutual friend is still how most people meet their partners. so blech.

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me = clueless

[buhrger]

it's something that, even though i've managed to do it a few times, it's never been intentional on my part. more a case of "oh, wait, i see what's going on", which usually only happens days-months later. so, the nerdy here is of the socially-clueless variety.

[mimerki.livejournal.com]

Everything is better when things can join together to form Voltron. *nods*

[miss-swamp.livejournal.com]

I've succeeded in this exactly once, 17 years ago. Now I just don't know any single males.

[ivy]

Yeah, I think I too would prefer the invite without pressure/knowing... you can always inquire later if there was mutual interest, but effectively going on a blind date is kind of terrifying.

[varina8.livejournal.com]

My only deliberate attempt at matchmaking involved a friend of mine and a friend of C's. It was a spectacular success for almost a year until it went in flaming spiral that last a few more years as it reignited, leveled out, caught fire, crashed, reignited again, and then went sideways.

Ever since, I've stuck to the idea that if you meet someone during an event I've organized, wonderful. Otherwise, count me out for introductions.