and for worse

[ironymaiden]

sometimes i think friendships are more about the bad times than the good times. it's not about who you like to have a beer with, it's about who you call when your cat dies. (hopefully it's the same person, ne? ) i like to bear weight and know that some day i'll be able to lean on that person in return. acts of service - including quiet listening, hugs, and tissues - are a big way that i express affection. i enjoy the attention that is spent on me in confidences, and i do my best to honor it.

not every person in your life is like that. not every friendship goes there. that's okay. but don't assume that letting me know you're having a bad day is going to ruin mine.

(and it's not really about you, dear, but you do have me thinking about this...)

Comments

[sinthrex.livejournal.com]

I actually view this as the true definition of friendship.

If you happen to be able to have a good time together that's just a bonus.

This may be due to how I interact with people. I don't *need* people on a regular basis, but when I do, it's a sanity preserving thing. And therefore, pretty damn important.

Speaking of which, thank you. This may not make sense to you, but I view any interest of mine in the reserves and not moving as a non-breakable set.

[sinthrex.livejournal.com]

I don't know why, but I feel the need to elaborate on this.

it's not about who you like to have a beer with, it's about who you call when your cat dies.

To me, this is the only definition of friendship. If I need a beer, I'm pretty comfortable drinking by myself. If I'm up shit crik, I really have a need that only a friend is going to fill.

[mimerki.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[awritersweekend.livejournal.com]

I agree with you on the friendship thing. For me, it's been one tough time after another these past few months and it would have been nice to have someone to talk to...if only the people I thought were friends were able to look beyond petty grievances and speak to me, that is. I've had to accept that other people's drama does not have to become my own, even though I can be compassionate when it's happening.

[spazzychic.livejournal.com]

Well said. I wish I'd seen more of you on Saturday. :)