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i have tried and failed at the "you guys would like each other" thing.
right now i'm pretty sure that i mishandled said introduction by being perfectly honest about my intentions. i believe that i could have done the same thing (have a couple single friends come over for dinner and board games) and then followed up with "...and s/he's single" with better results. (female friend was nervous and not-herself. and then felt uncomfortable with having to say "not interested" to me afterwards. tonight i will get to have mirror conversation with male friend and be doubly sad.)
however, i am not a very good liar and it would have been kind of transparent anyway and i don't like manipulating people i care about. and the lying version puts every person i introduce to another friend into the eligible bucket, and that's weird too. i want friend stream-crossing to remain drama-free. yet statistically, being introduced by a mutual friend is still how most people meet their partners. so blech.
[Poll #1989779]
right now i'm pretty sure that i mishandled said introduction by being perfectly honest about my intentions. i believe that i could have done the same thing (have a couple single friends come over for dinner and board games) and then followed up with "...and s/he's single" with better results. (female friend was nervous and not-herself. and then felt uncomfortable with having to say "not interested" to me afterwards. tonight i will get to have mirror conversation with male friend and be doubly sad.)
however, i am not a very good liar and it would have been kind of transparent anyway and i don't like manipulating people i care about. and the lying version puts every person i introduce to another friend into the eligible bucket, and that's weird too. i want friend stream-crossing to remain drama-free. yet statistically, being introduced by a mutual friend is still how most people meet their partners. so blech.
[Poll #1989779]
