When I first saw the story I was horrified and hoped it was a mistake. We got a mailing about it yesterday from HRC and it was verified. It's just disgusting and I'm sickened that adults do this to children. I'm sickened that in this day and age, this attitude prevails and SO MANY people were involved and none said a thing.
Every last one of those adults should be forced to wear the cone of shame
It is horrifying, it is also what the new right wing is saying is A-OK with them. Because this is the logical response of places that want to turn back the clock and not let us move forward. My hope is that this is one of those "last gasp" signs. And that people will be so appalled at the cowardice, lying, and dismal ethics of these "just folks" and "good Christians" that they will realize we need to shake this mud off our feet a little faster. Wow that was more than I intended.
Almost 20 years ago (!) I attended a prom where friends of mine collaborated to bring "fake" dates - a lesbian couple and a gay couple rearranged among themselves so they could get in without hassle as two hetero-appearing couples.
Near the end of the night the gay couple couldn't fake it anymore and danced together to one song. Sadly, my friend in the couple (the boyfriend was from a different school) was so harassed the following autumn that he chose to drop out of school and go for his GED instead. The main harasser, oh-so-stereotypically, was a football player originally from my class year that got held back somewhere along the line. . .
I'd hoped that tolerance had advanced further in the time since then. Maybe it has in Massachusetts, but it's still working its way down into Mississippi. Still, evidence to the contrary is never a happy discovery.
I think what burns my ass the most is the comments from some of the other students about their "real" prom, and how all they wanted was their own private event (read: Without the undesirable people) and how Constance is just a big attention whore and probably isn't even gay, blah blah.
Oh, and of course: They claimed that they weren't bigoted at all.
It was just breathtaking, though not surprising, how openly hateful they really were, and how they felt that they were the ones being discriminated against because they weren't allowed the freedom to be away from people they didn't personally feel met their standards. Horrible.
Being from Mississippi, this kind of thing is why I can never sign on with the people who want to split off the blue states from the red states, or say "fuck those red staters" or the like. I can't abandon people to that. Those people are us.
FFS. The tragic part is that this doesn't have to be difficult. I attended a Catholic high school in Georgia in the 1990s, and one girl brought her girlfriend to the prom (and wore a tux). The administration tapdanced and eventually sold her the damn tickets.
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Date: 2010-04-07 06:57 pm (UTC)Every last one of those adults should be forced to wear the cone of shame
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Date: 2010-04-07 06:59 pm (UTC)I'm really glad for that girl that she can put that shitty town behind her and I hope she never, ever goes back there once she does escape.
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Date: 2010-04-07 07:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-04-07 08:09 pm (UTC)Almost 20 years ago (!) I attended a prom where friends of mine collaborated to bring "fake" dates - a lesbian couple and a gay couple rearranged among themselves so they could get in without hassle as two hetero-appearing couples.
Near the end of the night the gay couple couldn't fake it anymore and danced together to one song. Sadly, my friend in the couple (the boyfriend was from a different school) was so harassed the following autumn that he chose to drop out of school and go for his GED instead. The main harasser, oh-so-stereotypically, was a football player originally from my class year that got held back somewhere along the line. . .
I'd hoped that tolerance had advanced further in the time since then. Maybe it has in Massachusetts, but it's still working its way down into Mississippi. Still, evidence to the contrary is never a happy discovery.
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Date: 2010-04-07 11:15 pm (UTC)Oh, and of course: They claimed that they weren't bigoted at all.
It was just breathtaking, though not surprising, how openly hateful they really were, and how they felt that they were the ones being discriminated against because they weren't allowed the freedom to be away from people they didn't personally feel met their standards. Horrible.
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Date: 2010-04-08 03:25 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-04-08 05:51 am (UTC)