we're not two people, we are one person - would i hurt me?*

You Are Ani Difranco! Honest, real, and well liked. You're not limited by any boundaries. "And you can call me crazy But I think you're as lazy as white paint on the wall" Who's Your Inner Rock Chick? Take This Quiz :-) Find the Love of Your Life (and More Love Quizzes) at Your New Romance.

C said something to me early in our relationship that periodically surfaces and sustains me. "I was looking for a woman that didn't need me."

and i don't, you know. i'd be a somewhat different person, but i'd be shouldering my way through the world all the same if he had never crossed my path. but there's something that rocks about being loved for that very thing. thinking about the thoughts flying on the friends list about gender roles, i'm very happy to have a boon companion and coequal who happens to have a Tab A to fit Slot B. and i get to wear cotton undies and comfortable shoes.

we had a rambly chat with frabjousdave the other day about which characters from Buffy we are (or wish we were). part of me certainly is Willow in high school, crying in the bathroom because she saw Xander kissing Cordelia. Willow, for all her other faults, found Oz and Tara, who loved her for her brains and geekiness and goofy sexiness. if i was a bit younger, i think that would have been hope for me in a dark world filled with cheerleaders and sorority girls. as it is, i worked it out on my own, and i look upon the early Ms Rosenberg with a poignant sort of nostalgia. sometimes the Cordelias of the world still get me down, be they the "attractive" or just the well-connected. i'll never be one of the popular kids, but i suspect that i'll always be happier, and with less effort. i like that.

in practice i'm pretty much Anya.

the weather is perfect for hot tea and all the indoor pursuits i love, as well as brisk walks. i'm making serious progress on the current quilt. more than two thirds along i think. i have two projects ahead with a Yule deadline, so i've got to kick some ass. that's okay. it feels quite good to cover my lap with a blanket and sew on it while singing with the television.

the birds are singing too.

*this is a quote from Romancing the Stone, which C and i spoke simultaneously yesterday. yay for geek love.