It's not so much the reminder as the "and what do I do with this?" Should I
be writing memorial thoughts on his wall? Is someone watching the account
who would be cheered or saddened? I think there's a "memorial" setting...do
I ping his daughter about that? Is that nice, or has she carefully
considered it and turned it down, and I would be annoying for questioning
her choices?
I'm upset that I have to navigate this bullshit.
But you're right in that I have been remembering him today, and it's
pleasant to do so outside of the initial squick.
I've seen a lot of friends post about Facebook bringing up old statuses or photos that have painful memories attached to them, but I hadn't considered this angle.
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Date: 2017-06-26 04:10 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2017-06-26 07:18 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-06-26 07:38 pm (UTC)It's not so much the reminder as the "and what do I do with this?" Should I be writing memorial thoughts on his wall? Is someone watching the account who would be cheered or saddened? I think there's a "memorial" setting...do I ping his daughter about that? Is that nice, or has she carefully considered it and turned it down, and I would be annoying for questioning her choices?
I'm upset that I have to navigate this bullshit.
But you're right in that I have been remembering him today, and it's pleasant to do so outside of the initial squick.
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Date: 2017-06-26 08:32 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2017-06-26 08:38 pm (UTC)